I wasn’t sure what to do the first #Mental Health Monday’s post on. I planned to do it on a little bit of an introduction to my history with mental health, but when trying to write it that all became a little too scary (which is ironic given the focus of this is to help remove the stigma associated with mental health.) So, I instead decided to focus on assumptions…
I don’t need to tell you what happens when we make assumptions, we all know by now. But it’s interesting to watch how Instagram almost makes people feel comfortable in making assumptions about your life. Now, to be clear I’m not saying I’m hard done to. I have a wonderful life, amazing family and friends, a good job, I was lucky enough to buy my own house and I post regularly on Instagram.
Instagram has a way of doing two things:
- It forces people to assume that their life isn’t sufficient because it’s compared to the posts they seen on the internet – we tend to only show the good things and I’ll be honest – I wait until the sink is full (something 3 or 4 days) before washing the dishes, I hate making my bed, I throw my clothes on the floor and my office is unusable 90% of the time because I’ve thrown things in there that I need to deal with later then just shut the door and ran away.
- It makes people assume you have a certain level of confidence and they react to you in parallel to that. I was astounded by the amount of people who told me at the recent Iconic Lights event how confident I seemed and how sociable I was – the truth is, I get nervous and I babble (and I sip more gin and I babble some more) but I’ve learnt to hide it.
If you see yourself finding Instagram too much, remove the people who make you feel sad. You can now also silence people’s stories and posts if you need a break from them. You just go to the persons profile page, click the three dots in the top right-hand corner then click mute. You can unmute them at any times in your settings.